WARNING: This site is full of candid talk about sex, sexuality, love and relationships in all their forms, so don’t be surprised that if as a result of spending copious amounts of time here that your sexual confidence and ability to talk about everything, skyrockets!
Be prepared to find articles and information on all things unconventional in the sex, swinging and relationship arena. This is the zone where no topic is safe from exploring or being discussed in some way, shape or form. You’ll find that your thinking will go places you’d never contemplated before and new things will happen for you which is why here is all about your SEXUAL EVOLUTION!
If you’re really game, take a sneak peek at Chantelle’s Diary for the true confessions of a swinger. It’s no-holds-barred, real and raw, so blushing and giggling frequently occurs.
“Ask Chantelle” if you have any sex or relationship questions that you’re too afraid or embarrassed to ask anyone else, because that’s what she does best! The sealed section is coming soon but will be filled with sexy stories for inspiration and bragging! In the meantime let’s start your sexual evolution….
Tiger Woods wouldn’t have had an affair if…
Chantelle — 7 December 2009 – 4:07pm
He and his beautiful wife were swingers!
If all of his needs were being met, he wouldn’t feel the need for anything else. The fact he had a physical affair with another woman (or more) doesn’t mean he doesn’t love his wife but that potentially he has a need for variety that’s not being fulfilled. It makes complete sense that if they were swingers this whole situation wouldn’t have happened, now doesn’t it?
It’s a “have your cake and eat it too” lifestyle that has provided many couples the variety they need in their sex life to keep their relationship full of love and passion. Seriously, there are only so many positions and toys you can use when it’s just 2 of you before you’ve done everything you can do together… the options become limitless when you add a third, and forth or more!
Review: BeBe Personal Massager
Chantelle — 7 December 2009 – 1:52pm
What it is:
The BeBe is a “personal massager” created by Love Being a Woman, designed by women and developed in Australia which is always a good thing. I’d rather use Australian products where possible and if it’s been designed by another woman, chances are that it will actually be quite pleasurable.
It’s made from high quality, Phthalate free plastic so it’s non-toxic (which is very important to me).
Its arc shaped, fits quite nicely in your hand and comes in a very nicely presented box that also comes in a nice black satin bag. It’s clear to see that it has a woman’s touch as it doesn’t look like you’ve left your vibrator sitting around ☺
What it’s good for:
Swinging – The Good, the Bad and the Utterly Fabulous
Chantelle — 19 November 2009 – 5:24pm
Introducing swinging to the relationship can have various effects, some good, some not so good and some that are unexpectedly awesome. We’ve seen some and experienced others, and while every relationship is different, there are a few outcomes that tend to be experienced more than the others.
Cheating Versus Swinging
Chantelle — 10 November 2009 – 10:19am
There is a fine line and it’s a pretty clear one if crossed. Here is the best way to define the difference, at least for me:
It’s swinging if both partners fully aware of EVERYTHING, and I mean EVERYTHING!!! It becomes cheating if you find yourself or your partner hiding things; doing things in secret and behind each other’s backs.
Basically if you feel you have to hide something, you’re cheating. Now this could be as simple as hiding some naughty text messages you’ve received from someone, it could be an email or the fact you are meeting them for a quick chat on the spur of the moment, or stealing a kiss. If you find yourself doing any of these and not sharing them with your partner, you need to be aware that you’re crossing the line from swinging to cheating.
My partner doesn’t know I’m bi, what do I do?
Chantelle — 1 August 2009 – 1:36pm
Whether this is a new development in you, or it’s been there for some time there are a couple of choices…
You could:
1. Cheat – enjoy your bisexual playtime without telling them, after all what they don’t know won’t hurt them, right?
2. Not tell them, which means you never fulfill those urges or explore that part of your sexuality and go quietly insane.
3. Tell them and potentially end up going your separate ways or evolving your relationship together.
They are your 3 main options and there is a high level of pain and uncertainty associated with every one of them. I’ll be totally honest, this secret does have the potential to make or break a relationship regardless of the choice you make so there’s really no easy option, and only one that keeps your integrity in tact…
BSwish bNaughty Bullet Vibrator
Chantelle — 26 July 2009 – 11:49am
What it is:
The bSwish bNaughty is a portable vibrating waterproof bullet, oval in shape with a four-speed remote.
It’s made from ABS plastic with a polyeurathane coating. It contains NO phthalates or PVC which means it’s made out of non-toxic materials that won’t affect your health! I don’t know about you ladies, but I’d rather not go with something that can be a substantial factor in cancer or organ damage, and if you didn’t know that some toys are made from materials that can do that, Google it and then make your own decision ☺
Length 6.4 cm, circumference 2.8 cm
What it’s good for:
So you have feelings for someone outside your relationship…
Chantelle — 3 July 2009 – 10:50pm
This could mean a few different things but either way it’s a neon sign flashing a message at you to say “you need to change something”!
In my first marriage I always said “if either one of us starts to have feelings for someone else, it means there is something wrong here”. Never in a million years did I think it would be me, but in the end, it was.
You can get into a rut in your relationship and sometimes you don’t realise it. You start to run on auto-pilot mode; doing the same things, going about your day the same way and basically coexisting together rather than being in a relationship with each other. Relationships are a living entity and require constant nourishment, love and attention, and when that stops happening, the relationship slowly dies.
Is being a slut a bad thing?
Chantelle — 1 July 2009 – 9:21pm
Well after I wrote a post about my mental struggle around participating in a gang bang and what that meant about who I was about a week or so ago, I received a brilliant comment which both reminded me how programmed I really was and also what the big picture is.
We’re programmed to believe that being promiscuous, or a slut is a bad thing and what is that really? It’s a judgment, damn it! The one thing I pride myself on NOT doing. Coming from someone who works hard to accept others as they are, I was judging myself! I had come to the conclusion that I wasn’t a slut because I was selective about whom I slept with but what does that say about people who aren’t selective? And is that really “wrong”?
I Lost My Saints and Sinners Ball Virginity, and I Liked It!
Chantelle — 28 June 2009 – 9:18am
Let’s just say that when you see the DJ banging a hot little thing over the mixing deck, while mixing music, then it’s a fair indication that anything goes!
Welcome to my first Saints and Sinners Ball. While I wasn’t shocked by what I saw (well mostly, there was this one girl that… hang on, I’ll come back to that), it was a new experience and quite a liberating one at that!
Imagine a night club, where everyone is wearing underwear/lingerie or less, it’s mostly ok to flirt with anyone and no one bats an eye lid if you engage in a 3some or moresome with a strap on, on the side of the dance floor (kudos to you guys, that was great to watch!)… ok so while they may not bat an eyelid, they may watch and get inspired to do something themselves; talk about a stimulating place to be!