“I walk the boundaries and blur the lines – so others may wander into new territory.”

Does Size Really Matter?

Does Size Really Matter?

Well being a swinger you get the opportunity to do some field research (so to speak) and it amazes me how many guys either worry about, or boast about, their penis size, but does size really matter? I’m happy to answer that but do you want the truth; the whole truth, and nothing but the truth?

Ok, you asked for it. Guys often ask me 2 things:

1. Can we feel the difference between a “big” one and a “small” one? You want the truth right? Well, yes, we can feel the difference.

2. Can we feel more with a bigger one? Yes we can.

But you guys are so hung up on size you fail to ask the most important question; can we still get pleasure from a smaller one? Yes we can! So does size really matter? Not as much as you guys think it does!

The male assumption is that all women want men who have a big penis and guess what, they don’t! I know a very small amount of women who love fisting and who can quite happily take a 9” coke-can-thick penis (ouch!), but not all of us want a 9”+ rock hard tool pumping into us! I know a lot more women prefer a whole lot less. Just as the occurrence of men with equipment that large is less common, so is the amount of women who prefer them.

So penis size preference can vary from woman to woman, there are no written or secret rules that say 8”+ is required for optimal pleasure. It’s like chocolate; some women prefer dark, some like white, and some are addicted to the milk variety. Although some women will argue that they just can’t fit the big ones in, I for one thought that was the case but no…further research revealed this:

Women’s vaginal canals (the part the penis slides in and out of) is only 3” – 4” which means the majority of male population is going to be stretching some part of it! That’s good news guys, chances are high that she will feel something! It’s because the whole area is made up of muscle; it’s elastic-like so for that reason we have this amazing ability to adapt to the size of it, big or small.

The smaller ones we can more easily adjust to, which is a bonus because it can be more comfortable and pleasurable. The bigger it is, the slower it needs to be introduced and sometimes, the more extra lubrication is needed to make it pleasurable as opposed to painful, but regardless, we have the capacity to take a wide range of sizes! Ahh, the wonders of the female sex organs!

You guys worry too much, in fact, your perception of size is skewed! I found a study that was done which confirms what I already thought. Check this out:

  • An Internet-based survey of 52 031 heterosexual men and women found that while 85% of women were satisfied with their partners’ penis size, only 55% of the men were satisfied with their penis size.
  • Several studies that have asked men to evaluate the size of their penis, compare it to “normal” and then have actually measured their penis size, have shown that most men underestimate the size of their penis, and overestimate what is average penis size.
  • Studies have also shown that men tend to compare penises in a way that is likely to end up with negative evaluation (e.g. they compare flaccid penis to an erect penis).
  • One study of men who were seeking penile enlargement surgery found that most of the men had penises that were in the average size range, despite their belief that they had unusually small penises.

(Taken from: http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/a/penissize.htm)

See? You guys are seriously in need of some cold hard penile facts! So here we go, I did some extra research on this just for you:

  • Average penis length (flaccid/not erect): from 3.4 inches to 3.7 inches (8.6 cm to 9.3 cm)
  • Average penis length (erect): from 5.1 inches to 5.7 inches (12.9 cm to 14.5 cm)
  • Average penis girth (circumference when erect): from 3.5 inches to 3.9 inches (8.8 cm to 10 cm)

(Taken from: http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/a/average_penis.htm)

Some other fascinating things to note:

Penises that are relatively “small” when they are down, or “flaccid”, tend to grow more when erect. So guys if you happen to see another guy naked somewhere, and his flaccid penis seems to be a couple of inches bigger than yours, he won’t grow to be a couple of inches bigger when erect, he’ll likely be about the same size! Men that have large flaccid penises tend to only harden and lengthen a little. So small flaccid penises are big penises in disguise!

When you look at other men and compare your equipment to theirs it’s interesting to note that you’re viewing your penis from the top down while you are viewing theirs side on, and come on, when you’re looking down at something it will always look smaller than something side on so get a grip and stop being so hard on yourselves (pun intended!)

Oh, and this has to be said but you know those donkey-dick guys you see in all that porn you watch? Yes, we know you watch it whether you want to admit it or not! Those guys are specifically chosen because of the size of their tool! They in no way represent the “average” size at all so you can stop comparing yourself to what was taken with a wide angle lens, good lighting and special effects!

I’ll ask you again, does size really matter? Not really, we can still get enjoyment out of any size you care to present, however if you turn up with a 9” solid coke-can-thick cock, you may frighten us! We do have the ability to stretch but I personally feel we still have a capacity. Seriously, it doesn’t matter how much lube you use, you can’t slide a Mack Truck into a Mini size parking space! That is, until you stretch the parking space… gently!

You may like to read::

  1. What Men with “Small” Penises Should Know…
  2. Not All Vagina’s are Created Equal!

4 Responses to “Does Size Really Matter?”

  1. v says:

    hey nice read, well like any other guy out there even I tend to worry about the size lol :D
    and tend to measure often :D
    I am a 7″ and thought it was below average, reading this post kinda helps understand better
    The side on pun was fun ;)
    look forward to more learning from you
    take care
    found your blog from twitter & now a regular reader :)

  2. adatlga says:

    Is there a standard for measuring your penis? I have women ask how big is your penis? Well, how do you measure it to give a honest and correct response, course, I’d like to just ram it in and say, what size you thing that is..but these quesstions are usually put via e-mail.

  3. Chantelle says:

    When it’s fully erect, measure it from the base to the tip on the top side :) That’s about as standard as you get… :)

  4. SpecialD says:

    Yes – It’s all about Balance! Dx


  1. What men with “small” penises should know… | chantelleaustin.com – […] true, size doesn’t matter and I covered the physical logistics of the size debate in my “Does size really …

Leave a Reply