I umm’d and ahh’d about the next workshop I was going to go to, so I got out of my head and asked myself intuitively, which one would I enjoy and get the most out of… Fun With Cock! Ok, sold! Plus, anything I learned was only going to benefit hubby, and since he let me come to Sex Camp on my own, any extra benefit he received as a result only gives me brownie points, right?
Now, I hadn’t read the write up so I wasn’t quite sure what it was going to be about, but based on the title I was sure cock and fun would be involved 🙂 Enough said.
There was a good mix of genders in the room but for some weird, unconsciously programmed reason, I thought there would be a lot more women than men, but no. Yay!
Our facilitator, Jolene, set up a mattress in the middle of the room with a pillow and towel (or blanket) on it, and that’s when my brain started going into: “Is there going to be a live cock model? Noooooo… really? Can we do that? What exactly is she going to do with him? Will she make him come? How big will he be? Will he be able to perform with all of us just sitting around?… Will we be playing with cocks?”
None of this made me uncomfortable but it really hit me just how different Sex Camp was in comparison to a Sexpo or Mind, Body Spirit Festival kind of environment. In all is honestly, in the lead up to Sex Camp I thought those would be a better way to structure it so more people would be interested in coming along, but there is no way you could create such a personal, intimate and safe space for people to watch and explore these things the way we did. I was happily wrong on this occasion and hats off to Vanessa for staying true to her vision of what Sex Camp was, and should look like!
*serious rant and apology done*
Quite a number of us grabbed cushions and sat on the floor in a circle/group around the focus point of the room; a currently unoccupied mattress and at that point I was curious as to who our model was going to be, and how far we were going to go.
Jolene stood up and introduced herself and there were a couple of things, which really stood out about her story. First off, she was 42 and a mother of 5! Nooooooo, no way! Jolene is a gorgeous woman, looks mid to late 30’s maybe, a healthy size 8-10 and definitely doesn’t look like she’s had 5 kids! Shock number one.
She then proceeded to tell us about her work; she’s a Sacred Tantric Body Worker and for some time, she has worked as a masseuse… of a different kind. I’m not going to beat around the bush (partly because I’m personally not a fan of bush), many men go to her to be both massaged, and have their cocks played with. Not always to the point of ejaculation but yes, it was included in the service. I can see why it’s popular!
So basically, with cock play as a part of her career history, and having seen/massaged/played with 10,000+ cocks in her lifetime (shock number 2), it was fair to say she may know a thing or two about how to treat, and have fun with, cocks!
Jolene started with her story of how she came to be the Goddess of Cock Appreciation, which was fascinating! She didn’t originally set out to be working in this field, but found herself there through desperate times: being a young, single mother of five children, needing to feed the family and lacking any qualifications, she answered an advert for “masseuses required, training included”.
She rang and was told the massage would include hand relief. Apparently she was bought up a strict Mormon (OMG, really? I wanted to say “you poor thing!”)… So she had to ask what hand relief meant, and on being told, promptly put the phone down.
One month later and Jolene had fallen into more desperate times, so she rang again and was also told she would have to massage naked. She promptly put the phone down, again. Clearly this was pushing her boundaries but she was a mother of 5 children, sometimes you do what you’ve got to do…
Another month later, and times were even more desperate, she rang and informed her prospective employer; she was a mother of five and unsure if she looked good enough for the position. She was asked about her size (which was size 6 at the time since she had been feeding the children, not herself) and was then invited to look at the establishment. The rest involved 10,000 cocks! Yes, that number is still amusing to me 🙂
It is now12 years on and what started as a rub-and-tug, flip-the-men-over-like-a-pancake job, she has turned into an art form and a mission with a purpose. Kudos to her!
Now, I don’t mind being naked, and I don’t mind giving hand relief but I wasn’t brought up as a Mormon or any other strict religious type, where even the act of masturbating was a sin you were going straight to Hell for, so I couldn’t imagine how hard it would have been for Jolene to go against, and break free from, such strong programming. For this, I have an immense respect and admiration for her achievement and willpower to overcome it.
The most interesting part of her story were her insights; she started to notice trends in her clients. She had many married men come to her because they weren’t getting any attention at home, and I don’t mean purely sexual, they were just craving intimacy; physical touch. You know, that stuff us women also crave! And Jolene was providing a service where they could be sensually touched and their cocks were not left out of the experience. What does that say about the many marriages and relationships out there? A post and rant for another time…
First we were asked if we had our “phallic” toys… damn, I missed the memo on bringing toys; left mine in my suitcase (yes, I did pack them)! For those who wanted something to have in their hands, she began passing out a bunch of carrots and zucchini’s. I didn’t grab one though, I was quite happy watching; I’m such a voyeur sometimes 😉
With the intro done and pretend cocks in hand, it was time to introduce the male cock model (as opposed to the female one?) I won’t name names but I will share; once she got him to lay down and gently removed his pants, we were introduced to “Brian” (male models cock).
Well hello Brian!
Jolene started with a basic anatomy lesson, pointing to, picking up, showing off each of Brian’s parts. I agree, I don’t think we’re in Kansas anymore, Dorothy; this was definitely adult Sex Ed, real cocks were never used in any anatomy class I ever did. In fact, pictures of real cocks were not even included! I love being an adult 🙂
Jolene was amazing. She was extremely respectful in the way she handled Brian, particularly as Brian was not hers, although I think Brian’s owner’s partner was the wonderful lady sitting at the other head. Jolene had handled over 10,000 cocks and yet she was still able to look at, and fondle, Brian with wonder and honest appreciation for his uniqueness.
Jolene was laying next to Brian’s owner with her hand gently stroking Brian, talking about the different sensitive areas and where to focus attention for maximum enjoyment; how to hold him, how to tease him, how to know when he’s responding positively to what you’re doing. The entire time she was stroking and fondling Brian and seemed as though she was being very careful not to get him too worked up, speeding up a little and then slowing down so he had time to chill out…
We all asked the most important and deep questions too… “Having handled so many cocks, what’s the real average size?” And “What’s the smallest cock you’ve ever handled?” The answers were both amazing and shocking and no, I’m not telling you 😉
At the end of the demonstration we were given the opportunity to test it all out, for real! The men were able to offer themselves as real live models for those of us ladies who were keen to try out our new skills 🙂 I can’t tell you how many or who did what (what happens at Sex Camp, stays at Sex Camp), but I can say it was refreshing to see people who weren’t shy to give it a go and to enjoy every moment of it what the workshop had to offer!
I personally learned a few tricks I hadn’t thought of before, and in watching Jolene with Brian and Brian’s owner, it reminded me to take my time to appreciate my husband’s cock. I might even have the occasional “Cock Appreciation Night”… I think all women should adopt this; it goes a long way to making our men feel loved, appreciated and WANTED! And seriously, don’t we want the same?
From here, it was onto the show (and tell – kidding) and the all-in party!!! Ohhhh yeah 😉
(If you would like to book in with Jolene, and I highly recommend her for this work and more of the Sacred Tantric Bodywork, you can find her at Ananda House in Balmain & privately in Wollongong – use my Contact Us page to get a contact number if you would like to connect with her.)
Thank you so much Chantelle for writing such a beautiful perspective on my workshop. I really love it & it really brought tears to my eyes! It has filled me with so much joy that you had a fun experience of it. I am more than happy to spread the love I have learned & the knowledge I have gained & all I really desire is for it to be shared between you all 🙂 <3