Well after I wrote a post about my mental struggle around participating in a gang bang and what that meant about who I was about a week or so ago, I received a brilliant comment which both reminded me how programmed I really was and also what the big picture is.

We’re programmed to believe that being promiscuous, or a slut is a bad thing and what is that really? It’s a judgment, damn it! The one thing I pride myself on NOT doing. Coming from someone who works hard to accept others as they are, I was judging myself! I had come to the conclusion that I wasn’t a slut because I was selective about whom I slept with but what does that say about people who aren’t selective? And is that really “wrong”?

Now it didn’t sit well with me when I realised that was what I was saying and I thank that person for reminding me that it’s just a choice a person makes. It’s neither good nor bad, it’s just a choice. If it’s not hurting anyone, and that person is enjoying themselves, who are we to judge that as wrong or bad?

And why does being a slut have to be a bad thing? Are they not just experiencing all that sex and life has to offer? Some people love chocolate, and they’ll eat any sort of chocolate they come across, does that make them a chocolate slut? Hell yes, but is that a bad thing? No! So why is it that some people get labelled as a slut and the connotation is that it’s a bad thing, almost an insult to be called one?

I have to say that this is mostly a female thing where it’s considered a negative title. For males that sleep around willy-nilly, they’re practically considered a God amongst men (WTF?) They choose who they do and what they do and they choose to do it as often as possible. Surely what’s good for one is good for others, right?

So I say this (and I thank those people who reminded me about the big picture), if you’re having fun and not hurting anyone then celebrate your slutiness and I’ll celebrate mine! If you choose to have copious amounts of sex with a wide variety of people, I say kudos to you! Let it be known from this day forth that slut is just another word for “adventurous”! Oh, just saying that makes me feel so much freer, now, where are my “adventurous” knee-high boots 😛

Here’s to your sexual evolution!